In your teens, you are almost entirely free of responsibility and obligation. You are just figuring yourself out, who am I and where am I going? You may go to university, you may go to do an apprenticeship, you could decide to travel the world however one thing is certain, you’ll definitely make poor decisions about outfits and partners. But there’s little to no pressure from society to be doing anything in particular,
its half expected you’ll be single and drunk.
In your 20’s, you are beginning to try different ‘life avenues’ out. You don’t make quite as many silly decisions as you did when you were in your teens, but often you’ll make far bigger mistakes, and think they are the absolute end of the world for a period of time.
By the time you get to your 30’s, you start to realise all the silly decisions you made in your 20’s were actually nowhere near as bad as what you thought. Those bad choices were in fact – NOT the end of the world, despite how many times you played them over in your mind and convinced yourself they were. Instead, these necessary instances were simply one of many mere steps on your journey through life, all playing some kind of important role on your individual path.
What does it mean to hit your 30’s in 2019?
The social stigma is starting to come in now, especially after 25. Do you have a boyfriend? How long have you been together? Are you getting married and *gasp heaven forbid you start to have kids when you are in your 30’s? Your body clock must be screaming at you! The stigma is there more than ever, that you should be figured out and ‘together’. You should have bought a house, You should also be in a decent career, you should be totally ‘grown-up’, mature, eating salad, posting daily about your bliss, happiness, couple goals and ‘perfect bod’. Wow, that’s all actually a fairly tall order of expectation resting on our shoulders, when highlighted all in one sentence!
Well, what if you aren’t ready! What if you are happy traveling or focusing on your career? What if you are damn single?
Why can’t entering into your 30’s be celebrated as becoming the best version of yourself yet? Self-awareness, confidence and character evolution is a wonderful turning point on a journey through life. I’m far less crazy now and about a hundred times more level headed than my 22-year-old hormonal self. Why can’t we celebrate that? That’s pretty awesome. When you buy a new house, you have a moving-in party – well I want a moving-in to my best self party! It just happens to be at the age of 30!
I learn more about myself every year. Sounds obvious, but this only came about through the practice of yoga and the dedication of practicing the act of honoring the ‘self’. If I want to go and do something by myself, I’ll do it. If I want to do nothing, I’ll do it. No longer do I do things because I feel like I should or because of concern for what others will think. That’s a joyous plus of kissing goodbye to my 20’s.
Am I completely together? No. Do I have it all figured out? No.
Do I have kids and am I married? Well no. Is that ok? Hell Yeah it is!! Other than the social pressures weighing down on me for being a woman of ‘child-bearing age’ and the visions of perfection displayed on social media, I’m actually really happy figuring myself out year on year, introducing more and more healthy habits and testing out different hobbies and interests.
The heat of society
For any women in there 20’s who are starting to feel the society heat that you should be wearing knee-length outfits, baking banana bread and talking babies :
Here are 5 things to get excited about when hitting your 30’s – UNCONVENTIONALLY
- Stop giving a shit about pleasing everyone else
- realise that life is short and start doing ‘you’
- Make better day to day decisions
- Become far more grateful than you ever were in your 20’s
- Figure out who your friends really are: and who they ARENT
- Listening skills start to improve
- Learn that you have freedom of choice, you don’t HAVE to do things out of obligation
- Define your identity (again)
- Have more money to travel and go on holidays
- Become more comfortable in your own skin, oozing natural body and personality confidence