Being a successful career woman can be so unbelievably fulfilling.
Throughout your working life, the sense of accomplishment you feel both financially and personally can see you crack open the prosecco and sit back in proud reflection.
Isn’t it wonderful when you get a huge win with a client, make your biggest sale yet, or land that seemingly ‘out of reach’ promotion? When the good times roll in, “espresso martini’s are on me!”, I’ll skip through the air clicking my heels together and whistle all the way to my desk each morning.
How lucky, a great job, money in the bank and a future to be excited about, the perfect picture.
If only life were always that simple. Each day to feel such glee with zero woes to speak of.
Insta may display such perfection, yet no one seems to post about waking up feeling utterly average, spilling hot coffee on your white shirt firth thing, stepping in dog poop on the walk into work or getting an expensive and soul-destroying speeding fine. Weird?
What about all the perfectly normal yet silent individuals who are simply not leading an idealistic life day in and day out, who suffer quietly about the many tricky days at work they face, struggling to shrug off the incidents where clients were lost, making errors that set you back hours or seriously troubling times at work that completely throw you off your stride?
My point is, we all have crappy days.
DO NOT weigh yourself down with the pressure of having to feel a MILLION dollars all the time and post super smiley selfies every day about how epic everything is. Feels ‘meh’ about work and life is totally a thing too.
Here are some tips to help you through the entirely average on downright rubbish days:
Write a journal
Putting pen to paper can really help your map out your thoughts and rationalize what’s actually going on. You can also keep a lookout for any patterns that are emerging, especially if the same issue keeps popping up, it may then be time for a change.
Walk at the beach or park to help clear your head
An afternoon walk is a really great way to stomp away those troubling thoughts that have been racing around in your mind. Sometimes a 10-minute walk turns into a 45-minute walk! When you arrive back through your door, the problem may not have magically disappeared, but you will have a different energy and usually a different perspective on the situation.
Try a guided meditation
There are so many great free options to choose from! Have a look and find a style you like and feel comfortable with, there are some really great 5-minute options but I recommend one a little longer. You are meant to sit on the floor but I’ll happily lay in bed and do guided meditation and the results work for me all the same.
Drink chamomile tea
Known for its relaxation and calming benefits,
A wonderful way to soothe away those niggling thoughts about the day gone by.
For someone who has NEVER had herbal tea before,
Please don’t judge it by it’s fragrance or appearance…
It’s not going to look like English breakfast tea and is not sweet,
Have it a few times before you toss away the idea forever.
Try out a Yin Yoga class
Total and utter relaxation, in its finest form. You don’t have to have ever stepped foot in a yoga studio before to try this out. You reach this kind of deep meditative-like state, it’s blissful and amazingly stress relieving!
Reconnect with your ‘why’ (Why are you doing this? What’s the end goal?)
It’s hard not to get caught up in the bad days at work.
Some people can leave it all at the door as the waltz out of work as if nothing ever happened.
If that isn’t you, and the energy follows you, try sitting down and having a good think about why you go to work. Reconnect with your main driver and your ultimate goals,
which will help you with prioritizing what’s happened vs your end goals which may uncover this day as a very minor speedbump.
Talk it out with someone who does a completely different job to you
Sometimes the days are REALLY bad, we just need to talk it out and get it off of our chests. A helpful way of being able to do this is with someone who does a completely different job.
The reason this works is because when we talk over what can seem like the world’s worst day to us, we watch the reaction of the person we are telling and they are completely disconnected from the environment. They are impartial.
This can actually really help you detach from however bad you think it is,
as someone else gives you an outsider point of view.
If you tell someone within your office,
they may end up riling you up more thus dragging out the situation for longer.